I had something interesting happen that has happen a few times in the past. Not often, but it does happen.  I had a gentleman offer me double my rate to see him at a time I was not available.  He as hoping I was a sell out with no integrity.  This made me feel like a commodity, just another thing this guy spends his money one. I felt my time and other responsibilities were disrespected and can be paid off to fit his needs. He himself wasn't expecting me to turn him down judging by the smug was he made the offer and his inability to accept rejection. He did pass screening, we did not meet. 

I don't feel the need to explain why I'm not available, doing so does not change the fact that I'm not available. This is not a job where I need to have an excuse to miss, I answer to no one. Guilt trips and playing on my emotions makes me feel that games are being played. and I stop communication and put the guy on my "NO" list if he can't take "no" for an answer.

What I had going on during the time he wanted to get together was a rendezvous with a regular, someone who sets meeting times with me weeks in advance. This gentlemen has been blessing me with seeing me for a few years now.  The new guy was certainly paying a lot more to see me however, it would be back stabbing to my regular. Cancelling on him, although I'm sure I would have got away with it and still see him another time, is unprofessional and classless. On occasion things are out of my control and I have to cancel. This is not one of those things.  I gave my word I would meet him at a certain time and day. He gave his word he would show up and he always does. This is where loyalty comes into play here. He's been loyal to me, not the see me only kind of loyalty, that's nonsense in the hobby, but the kind you give when you like someone or something and want to keep experiencing them. I'm loyal to my regulars.

I don't know if the new guy would even show, pay what he promised or become a regular in the future. I've earned the trust of the regular and he has earned mine. I know we will meet again and again. He has treated me well and is a good client in every aspect. This is worth a hell of a lot more than double my rate. A regular like this is one that isn't worth putting off for money.  I'm not desperate for money as this is a side gig for me, I'm not dependent on it. I have no reason to reschedule.  In all reality, if he was just a new guy and not a regular I had plans with, I still wouldn't cancel. I gave my word to meet. I keep my word. 

I very much enjoy seeing new gentlemen, that's the beginning of creating a new regular.  I treat them just as well as anyone else and show up with the same mindset...mutual enjoyment and making wonderful secret memories. However, when someone has been so good to me for a few years, I'm going to make sure I keep our meeting no matter how much someone else offers me.  I have a light schedule so it's pretty easy for me to work around what I have going on.  There's a lot to be said for earned trust and time invested.

Ladies that are constantly cancelling for the guy that offers more usually don't do as well. They get a reputation for constantly cancelling and are more focused on money than building something of value. What we focus on matters.  I focus on building something, that will bring a nice stream of income. Constantly chasing the highest bidder lowers quality...of service and of the person doing the chasing. It cheapens a lady.

I understand there are providers out there that disagree with me. That's fine. To each their own.  I'm responsible for me, not them.  I'll do me and they can do them.  For me, money is nice but my dignity and integrity trump it every time. 

Stay Real!

Becca Blossoms