What I'm about to write about does NOT apply to most ladies however, gentlemen should be aware that is does exist.

I've had the privilege of spending time with many ladies in the hobby through the years and most are wonderful, respectful people. I really have beef with anyone. With that said, there are always those few that I meet once and don't really care to meet again.  When this happens it's no always for negative reasons. Sometimes we just don't vibe with others. Other times it does happen for a reason. This is one of the rare time I've decided not to be friends with a certain provider, although I will always be professional if our paths cross again.

The thing that rubbed me the wrong way with this provider is her attitude towards the gentlemen and her lack of appreciation and respect for them. She spoke of a dinner date at a very nice, upscale restaurant. who doesn't love a dinner date??? The opportunity to get to know him better over a shared meal is such a gift. Lucy feels she is a Queen an should be treated as such. Fair enough, however, just saying you're a queen doesn't make you one. That comes from within, who you authentically are, not by demanding the treatment. Be a queen and the queenly treatment will come. 

When Lucy has the honor of a dinner date, she makes it a point to order the most expensive thing on a menu. She'll take it home if it's too much food for her or if she doesn't like it and give it to her dog. She admitted said she doesn't like about half the meals she gets on dinner dates but loves seeing him sign the credit card slip.   Doesn't care if she actually likes it, she feels a queen deserves money being spent on her. The more the better. This just sickens me. There 's so many issues here. 

That gentlemen chose her out of all his options. He saw her as worthy of her donation and a very nice restaurant. He was treating her with class and dignity and did not try to take advantage of her in any way. He was also hiring her for an experience, a positive one. She did not show queenly behavior. A Queen would have ordered something she would truly enjoy and not made him spend money on her just to spend money on her. No gentleman deserves to be taken advantage of. 

Lucy also said she loves it when a gentleman takes her shopping. She gets off on seeing how much money she can make him spend on her. I'm starting to see a theme here with Lucy. She goes into only high end stores and shops for her family. He's not taking her there to shop for the family. He's every so generously taking her there to see her enjoy something for herself. Not to be taken advantage of. 

Lucy is a beautiful woman physically, not so much on the inside. She brags about what she can get out of a gentleman, not what a wonderful time she's having with them. Not getting to them as people and not dollar signs. Not speaking of experiences. Just what she can make a gentleman spend on her. She didn't seem like a truly happy person and who can be treating others like that?

What a gentleman deserves is a physically beautiful woman properly dressed for the occasion, sober and ready to really enjoy time with him. He deserves to be respected. He deserves to see a lady truly enjoy gifts, not someone who is all about money. A nice local dish and cocktail or wine at restaurant is an amazing meal. Graciously accepting the gift of shopping by getting 1 or 2 nice things instead of going straight for expensive stuff just because it's expensive is what a queen does. He wants to see her enjoy ha nice meal with wonderful conversation or truly enjoy something nice he has offered to buy her. He deserves respect for that. 

No one appreciates or deserves to be taken advantage of. Memories are more important than money and material processions.

With respect and gradidtude,

Becca Blossoms