I very much enjoy the hobby.  I love meeting new friends, enjoying old friends and being the best version of myself while offering an excellent experience.  I've met countless like minded individuals and have shared some amazing experiences.  I believe in being good to others and it's certainly has come back to me.  However, no matter the industry, there are game players.  These people have a dirty energy, are normally narcissistic and couldn't be honest to save their lives. To each their own however, I have no time for games and it's not possible to manipulate or bully me into playing them.  

I live a very enjoyable, happy life, I have no drama or serious issues.  I experience life's ups and downs just like anyone else, it's HOW we handle those ups and downs that matters. I prefer to nip things in the bud, ignore and delete nonsense. I have no time for disrespect, games and manipulation.  I'll turn that shit around so fast, the undesirable will feel the pain before he knows what hits him. I've been in the hobby for quite a while now.  You don't get to enjoy longevity by letting people take advantage, play games and manipulate.  The moment someone shows me their a game player, they go straight to my "NO" list.  This kind of nonsense is dangerous in the hobby.  

There's always the guy that swears he's a good guy, makes huge promises, but can't screen.  This guy expects me to see him on the promise he's a good guy. These guys prey on ladies that are not as careful with their own safety or are too messed up on drugs to care. I've been there for too many other providers through the years that took a chance on a seemingly good guy and ended up robbed, raped, beat up, hospitalized, stalked and threatened.  Very seldom was proper screening done in these cases. These guys often like methods that are no screening such as meeting in public, video chat, showing their driver's license or business card or social media for screening. These are not screening methods, keep no one safe and is very easy for a predator to fake. I will not waste my precious time with these guys. 

Another game I won't play is the "You're a porn star so you do everything".  Not true for any porn star.  We're the same as regular escorts, we have our rules and limits.  I don't have enough fingers and toes to count the guys that show up expecting me to hang from the ceiling, do back flips and have endless energy.  They think their showing up for a porn scene. Have some respect, I'm a human first and expect to be treated like one. There are things I don't enjoy, if I don't enjoy them I won't do them.  

Then there's the guy with a test.  He shows up thinking I'm ignorant enough to not play safe because he was clean the day he took his test.  I work really hard to keep my health the best it can be and I'm not making anyone an exception to the rule because they passed a test a week ago.  I don't know what he's done or where he's been after he took that test. They always try to promise the weren't with anyone else since the test. I'm not willing to take a risk with my health or put others at risk by playing unsafe. It's normal for them to rattle off the names of other providers who obliged with his request which tells me who NOT to do a duo with.  Once I find out a provider does not play safe, I do not do duos with her. I've never had a dis ease and there isn't enough money or items on this planet that can be offered to me to put my life and well being at risk.

Another game is talking to me like we're best friends the moment we being communication.  Chatting about their job, hobbies, kids, anything.  The moment I bring up screening I get things like "We've been talking a while, aren't you comfortable with me?" or "I thought we were friends". He tries to play on my emotions.  I don't do guilt, shame, or any of the lower emotions. Playing on my emotions is weak and mindless. It shows me he has nothing else to offer but games. No amount of money makes these guys enjoyable.  I'm not stupid enough to be sweet talked into breaking my own safety rules. If a guy offers me so much personal info, that's fine.  Just don't expect it to be a way around screening. These guys often end up on my "NO" list.  If they can't be straight and do what needs to be done to see me, I don't feel safe seeing them.  Bad guys are often liars and game players. 

I'm loyal to providers and hobbyist which means I do not gossip about them or share their secrets with anyone. I don't need to be asked not to repeat what is shared with me, it see it as common sense and respect. I've had a few guys show up and drill me about what I know about other providers and hobbyist.  Most of the time, yes, I know quite a bit.  I'm not sharing it with anyone no matter what they promise to keep secret.  I was trusted and I'm going to be trust worthy.  Over the years many in the hobby have confided in me, shared personal secrets, turned to me in their lowest moments or just needed someone to talk to.  I repeat nothing. When someone tries to get this out of me, they go straight to the "NO" list. I do not offer gossip sessions. 

The most annoying...the guy that watches too much porn.  I hate to burst their bubble...porn is fake. Porn stars are playing a character. What's done in porn is nothing more than a show aimed at those with fetishes and porn addictions. I don't enjoy being called degrading names, doing certain acts, being humiliated and I don't do anything anywhere, I have my standards and limits. Porn is a show, a movie, done in a studio with many people standing around and a director telling the actors what he wants them to do. It's not real life. The characters you know as porn stars are not those characters in real life. If paid enough, they will get into character just like any actor and actress. I don't walk around looking for people to jump into bed with all day. I'm a human and expected to be treated and respected as one and I give the same. 

There's always the guy that wants to lower the rate and negotiate like I'm a vehicle sitting on a used car lot. I hear so many stories of guys being broke but want to play.  We all have had our financial struggles. It's how we handle them and get back on our feet that matters. I do not have a sliding scale.  My rates are based on the cost of being a provider.  There are many expenses just like there are with any other industry. When I'm asked to lower my rates, what I'm being asked to do is give the same energy and financial investment, get a lesser return but still keep the meeting and turn down anyone willing to pay my regular rate. My expenses don't lower because I lowered my rate. Would he go to work to make less money but still be expected to give the same amount of time and effort? This is not the clientele I'm building.  

Then there's the guy that wants to be my best friend and "help" me just to use that as a guilt trip later, trying to make me feel I should see him for free. After all, in his small mind, he somehow rescued me from something or did something for me I could have never got done otherwise. I'm not falling for this emotional abuse. I'm not helpless, there isn't a thing I need to turn to hobby guys to do for me in my personal life. My life is together, I'm not broke, I don't have drama, I don't need help. I do not look for new best friends in the hobby. I don't need my personal life invaded. This kind of guy preys on ladies that are struggling in one way or anther.  He selfishly uses her struggles as his way into her life. The hobby is not a source of help for me and it's insulting to be treated like it.

There's always the guy that thinks all providers are broke and their lives are a mess.  I was told by one guy whom I was on a dinner date with "I bet it feels good to get a good meal for a change".  What in the world was he talking about?  For a change? Is he implying I don't eat well because I'm just a provider?  Another asked "Do you know how to dress for a high end restaurant?" REALLY??? Did he think I'll show up in sweat pants and flip flops with my hair in a bun? He did not know how to speak to a woman of value. 

It takes all kinds in this hobby. At the end of the day I find them to be humerous.  I save my time for gentlemen who have a clue and see me as human first. I'm huge on respect, giving and receiving. Not everyone on my "NO" list is dangerous, many are simply disrespectful. I treat everyone as the Gods and Goddesses they are, regardless if they know they are or not. If they treat me as anything less, I don't spend time with them. My time is precious, I'm gong to spend it with gentlemen I enjoy and who treat me with respect and intelligence. Playing a game with me only makes my "NO" list grow.

Have a blessed, drama-free day,

Becca Blossoms