When I started providing, I was mistakenly under the impression that all gentlemen wanted the classic Pamela Anderson look. I couldn't have been more wrong!  It didn't take long to realize that men's taste in women are just as varied as women's taste in men. What men find attractive isn't always looks. Well, I can say the same for myself. My clients often feel their not attractive to me, their just as wrong as I was!

Looks are nice however, what looks nice to one person may not look nice to another. Young studs are nice to look at however, they lack the maturity and life experience of a more refined gentleman. At my age I do not find them attractive at all. I don't even cater to them as a provider. Their pretty to look at but that's about it for me. They don't get my engine running. There's nothing there I can connect with, nothing in common.

What I notice about a gentleman when I first meet him is not his looks, it's his aura, his energy, how he carries himself. Confidence, not cockiness but REAL confidence is sexy.  That comes from life experience, doing the work to know who he is and what he's capable of. It comes from having failed and growing from it and learning. It comes from life choices and getting to know himself. True confidence is cultivated, not something one has that others don't. 

Sense of humor. I know that sounds like something that belongs in a dating ad. I happen to love a sense of humor. Someone who doesn't take himself or life too seriously but isn't a loser either. There's lots of funny people whose done nothing with themselves. I like when someone can see the humor in situations and don't let any situation over take them. Someone who like to laugh with people, not at them. 

Responsibility is sexy. A gentleman who takes responsibility for himself in any situation regardless of fault is a winner. A loser mindset is an irresponsible mindset. Those who play the blame game will never grow and are really unattractive. A gentleman who takes full responsibility for himself and his life is a winner in my book. HOW we handle life is more important that any titles or positions.

A gentleman who knows how to treat a lady turns me on. I love when he open doors and walks on the side of traffic. The little things are big things to me. They show me he values me and our time together more than money. You can't buy this, it comes from deep inside him. Fancy dinner and gifts are nice and I love them however, being treated right can't be substituted with anything or bought. 

Intelligence turns me on. Having an intelligent, calm conversation is such a learning experience. Intelligence comes from self work and study. It comes from life experience and HOW we handle our mistakes and wins. It requires a level of free thinking that is not so common today. It's not memorizing a bunch of facts about something, it's much more than that. I can't be taught, bought or stolen. Having a respectful, intelligent conversation with a man that knows how to treat a lady will get me wet every time! 

Authenticity. In this world it takes balls to be who you truly are. It seems to me that society has decided it prefers fake over real. Pick a label, shrink yourself to fit it and hate everyone who doesn't wear the same label. This is just old, boring and ridiculous. I prefer a man who is self made, not one that wears a ready-made label that millions of others shrunk themselves into.  Hating others not like him is beneath him; as it should be beneath us all.

I can go on and on. For me, attractive is not looks, money or status. It's the person, who he is, what he had to do to get to where he is. How he gives back to his community and treats others well. It's the essence of who he is. Looks are nice but their just the wrapper and wrappers get ripped off and thrown away, exposing what is really inside.

I bet you're more attractive than you think!!!

Becca